I know it’s a bit of a pessimistic title for this blog, but there is an honest tough love truth in it. According to Forbes Magazine, Just 8% of People Achieve Their New Year’s Resolution. Yes 8%! And that’s out of the 40% of Americans who set them. Now you may be thinking, I need not worry because I don’t even set New Year’s goals. No sweat. Right?
Wrong! If you are struggling to come up with a way of having 2016 be an even better year you’ll want to read on… Here’s the list of the Top 5 Reasons Your Goals for 2016 Will Fail and what you can do to prevent it from happening to you.
Reason 1: You’re in denial about how bad the situation is and you fail to connect the dots.
Ever notice how when you don’t eat for a long period of time and are asked to do things you get “hangry”? There’s a connection between what you eat and how you feel, just like there’s a connection between how you think and how you breathe, how you communicate and how intimate you are with others. In fact, all aspects of your being (there are 12 dimensions in total) are interrelated. The better you are at connecting the dots between how one is affecting another, the better you get at this game called life.
The trouble is most people ignore the signs, fail to connect the dots and are in denial about seeking help with the areas of their life that they’re struggling in. What dots are you failing to connect? If you think about the main thing that’s really eating away at you, the thing you are denying yourself improvement in, what is it? Bring it to the surface so it can breathe and seek the help and attention it deserves.
Reason 2: You allow excuses to rule your life.
“As soon as I have the money, I will hire a personal trainer.” “As soon as I have more time, I’ll be able to hire a nutritionist.” “Once I feel better about my weight, I’ll start dating again.” Whatever your story is– the longer you tell it— the more it feels like the “real” you. But the story you keep holding on to is exactly the reason your goals for 2016 will fail.
The story that you keep telling yourself about why you can’t make the change is exactly what keeps you locked in the behaviors you want to ditch. The honest truth is there will never be a convenient time to make a change. There will never be the extra money to invest in yourself. As soon as you make a commitment to the change, the money, the time and the new you show up. So are you ready to ditch your story for 2016? I promise what’s on the other side is far more exciting!
Reason 3: You never get to the root of the problem or behavior.
The other week, I spoke with two people who told me that they signed up (again) for a weight loss program to jump start the New Year. On one hand I wanted to congratulate them for being proactive about making a change and seeking support. On the other hand I wanted to ask them, “Why didn’t it work the last time you signed up?” If you don’t get to the root of the problem and what’s causing it you jump on the merry-go-round or experience the see-saw effect which gets dizzy and disheartening really, really fast. Ask any coach, therapist or motivational speaker about behavior change and they’ll tell you there are various steps needed to move through it and it takes time.
Reason 4: You think you can do it alone.
Somewhere along the way we’ve been led to believe that we are supposed to do and be it all. The common misconception is that you are here to know everything and/or accomplish everything by yourself and that just stimply isn’t true. Whoever said that is an idiot and idiots say and do stupid things. Sometimes a lot of idiots do the same thing together. And you can feel like there are so many people doing or believing something that you are actually missing out. The only thing you are missing out on are the results of idiot behaviors. You won’t receive a trophy at the end of trying to do it by yourself, you’ll just wind up frustrated and stuck because you’re trying to resolve the same issues you didn’t know how to resolve on your own last year. The solution to this? Hire someone! If you had a problem with your car you wouldn’t ask your dentist for advice on how to fix it. You’d go to the specialist who knows how to help you with it. So, my question is why are you asking your friends to help you solve your issues with your career, relationships, weight, finances, feelings and ways of thinking? If you’re not seeing the results you desire it’s time to take 2016 by the balls and schedule time to talk.
Reason 5: You never take time to develop a S.M.A.R.T. Plan of Action nor an accountability system.
If you ask some of the most successful entrepreneurs how they got where they are, they’ll tell you that they took the time to develop a plan of action and had a system of accountability to ensure that they do it. They do it by creating small implementable actions and steps that are: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Timely. This sets them up for success in learning and growing into the person they truly wish to become.